The Rashomon Effect

Her shoutout as of Monday night:

Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you, and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry


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When asked if how old she is and if she has a boyfriend:

matanda na din yung 21 n0h.. iv been 2 a relationship recently lng..
msydo k0 sinery0so eh :-(


When asked what happened to the relationship:

s0ri but i d0nt want 2 elaborate, even my cl0se friends di ko cnasabhan..
i kn0w naman kc kung an0ng ssbihin nila..
lets just say i l0ved d guy so much!
and kung san sya happy i'l b m0re happy 4 him even if its hurting me!


After being told "One piece of advice: don't be a homewrecker":

thank you f0r d advice!
its easy 4 u 2 say dat bc0z ur n0t into d situation..
i've learned fr0m my mistake..
but it's n0t easy :-(


I l0ved him so much kc eh :-(


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From a concerned citizen:

L0 pala yung girl, parang CSR sa floor. Alam na ng mga tao sa office na mag-jowa nga sila, kasi nung tinanong ko yung friend ko, nagulat siya eh. Ang unang tanong niya sa akin “alam na ng misis niya?” But nobody knows the extent of the involvement. Basta ang alam nila nga, may relationship talaga yung dalawa.


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Her: Trust him...
believe in everything dat he'll say...
he really l0ve you so much and he will never leave you!


Me: I never worried about that. I d0nt need some bimbo to tell me sumting i already kn0w. That was never d p0int. U realy r as stupid as they say.


Her: well i just hope you and dar really talk n tlga..
and as what i've t0ld you believe in everything that he'll tell you!
kung n22wa kau ng mga friends mo na tntxt aq ng mga ganon well fine!
i d0nt hav 2 explain myself 2 all of u..
just continue l0ving and trusting him!
wag mo na xa awayin..


Me: What gave u d idea na inaaaway ko sya? And na hindi namin to napaguusapan?
U have n0 idea how it is 2 b married, and married 2 a person lyk dar, who also works in an environment w/c c0nd0nes extramarital activities. I'v kn0wn him 4 9yrs! Ikaw nakilala m0 lng sya this year! And u think u can dispense advice abt him t0 me, his wife? Something i kn0 so well abt him na malamang u d0nt kn0: lumapit lang sya syo kc malandi ka! Alam nyang may gus2 ka sa kanya and papatol ka sa may asawa! Because if u were a decent girl, or at least sori 4 alowing a married man get that close to you, hindi umabot sa ganito, and you wouldn't reciv those txt msgs.


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From me:

Did you love her too? Did you tell her that? Is that why she thinks tama yung ginagawa nya? Na she's willing to sacrifice?


From him:

No to all


Pero wala namang relationship e.


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So many sides to a story.

So many unanswered questions.

So many forced rationalizations to come up with conclusions that, I hope, will not hurt so much.

Just so tomorrow, I fervently wish and hope, we can start anew.

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Rashomon effect

10 comments

  1. i sure hope somewhere along the way, those questions will get some answers.

    should i greet you happy anniv?

    i hope you're doing ok dear. yosi tayo.. kahit in spirit. :)

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  2. i hope you guys patch things up soon. it might take time but as long as you're both willing, hindi naman imposible. :)


    note: napansin ko yang mga quote niya sa shoutout niya sa friendster ha. feelingera. bakit kaya yung ibang mga mistresses feeling nila sila yung "legal" and yung misis ang "other woman". heller.

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  3. bakit kaya yung ibang mga mistresses feeling nila sila yung "legal" and yung misis ang "other woman".
    exactly! and sila pa yung nagpapamukhang kawawa! heller twice:D

    all i can say to her msgs, "ugh." tapos roll ng eyes. ang drama!

    pansin mo ang comparative adjectives nya laging more? hindi ba sya aware na pwedeng mag add ng -er lang, or drop the i and add -er. anubayan!

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  4. haze, sure happy naman ang anniv :) we spent it in tagaytay, with our daughter. haha, sige sa next yosi ko, iisipin kong kasama kita ;)

    pao, feelingera talaga, lalo na sa bagong nyang shoutout ngayon. kakagigil. ang tapang lumaban sa pagsusulat, wrong grammer naman most of the time :P pano ba yan napromote?!?

    @-->----, paawa effect noh? muntik ko ng itext na mahiya naman sya sa mga pinag-gagawa nya... she gives us women a bad name!

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  5. gurl, di ba sa call center sya? bkt ganun ang grammar nya? masakit sa ulo ang subject-and-verb agreement, hanubayan >_<

    just continue l0ving and trusting him!
    wag mo na xa awayin..
    bakit naman nya naisip na may right sya magbigay ng advice? may word pa syang trust.. at utusan ka bang wag mang-away.. eh kung gaun talaga ang gusto nya, na magkaroon kayo ng maayos na pagsasama bilang mag-asawa eh di sana hindi sya pumapatol sa pamilyadong lalaki.

    haha, malakas din ang loob na sumagot-sagot pa. whahaha

    enywey.. oo nga 2nd anniv na.. belated! wishing your family peace and joy (parang christmas!)... and trust ^_^

    hehe bago kasi lumabas ng bahay yung hubby mo, mag-cast ka ng spell na Protego totalum para maingatan sya from death eaters

    things will be better.. one day at a time...

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  6. leenlangoo haha, tas napromote yan na ganyan ang grammar ha. ewan ko ba.

    yun nga eh, kaya di rin ako nakapagpigil, nakatikim sya sakin ng matinding text. kukingina sya.

    yeah one day at a time ;)

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  7. bakit siya na-promote? same reason siguro kung bakit siya na-hire. *wink, wink*

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  8. sheesh. pag yan naging L2 ewan ko na lang ha.

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  9. This is one of the things I'd hate to happen to me and my hubby. But knowing the nature of men, there is always that possibility. Haay... =(

    Still, I admire your strength in dealing with this situation. Hope the two of you work it out and he will be faithful for good.

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  10. kainis! di man lang ako nakasama sa text brigade! huli ako sa balita!

    hugs for you, shelley..

    *di bale, buti na lang start na ng season ng ugly betty and heroes to cheer you up! yey!*

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